What do I mean when I say an event should be cohesive?

I often talk about making an event cohesive. I think it's one of the benefits of hiring a wedding planner. And a couple of weeks ago, a groom asked me what "making an event cohesive" means. 

I guess when you talk about certain ideas often enough, it doesn't dawn on you to go in-depth on a particular concept. And to me, making an event cohesive is a basic concept that guides a lot of decisions during your event or wedding planning process.

A classic "Laura-ism".

A classic "Laura-ism".

The idea behind "making an event cohesive" means that all of the components of your event should be connected in one way or another.

Putting together interconnected elements really creates a wonderful experience. For instance, if you are planning to host a backyard barbecue in honor of the beginning of summer (not a bad idea since Memorial Day is right around the corner!), it would make sense to set up a grill station, decorate with red and white gingham tablecloths, and possibly set up a game of cornhole or lawn jenga for guests to play. Sending out princess tiara invitations for this type of shindig? NOT cohesive.

It Makes a Difference 

The reason I place so much importance on creating a cohesive event is because it really makes a difference. You don't often go to a party that has carnival, luau and disco components and think "wow that was great!". You're more likely to think, "uh, that was a train wreck". 

But if you go to an event where the components fit together, there will be a natural flow to the event that will make it graceful and relaxed. (Yes, a proper timeline and thinking about the overall sequence of events helps this as well, but that's another topic for another day.)

How do you create an event that is unique but still cohesive?

I firmly believe that your event needs to reflect you and your personality. So how do you create a cohesive event that is also unique? 

Are you a burlesque dancer in your spare time and want to have burlesque dancers at your wedding? Okay -- we'll make it happen. But I would not have them perform during the cocktail hour. That's something I would recommend after dancing or during the after party (if you're having one that is).

As you can see from the example above, if you think about the other elements of the event as well as the guest mentality, you can incorporate all sorts of elements without making them seem totally weird and outlandish. Guests will walk away thinking "what an unexpected touch!" as opposed to "those dancers during cocktails were a mistake". 

So definitely feel free to include those unexpected and unique moments in your event. After all, they will certainly help create a memorable experience for you and your guests. But also make sure to think about every component fitting together well so that there is a natural sequence of events throughout the celebration. 

What do you think about creating a cohesive event? Do you agree or disagree with me? Let us know in the comments!