On Writing Your Own Wedding Vows

Couples writing their own wedding vows has become a commonplace exercise in weddings these days. It's a great way to provide an extra layer of meaning to a wedding ceremony and avoid more traditional vows that some might not agree with (i.e. that "I vow to obey you" line). 

However, something I find when I witness personalized vows is that they don't actually promise anything. Often they go something like this: "From the moment I met you, I knew you were the one for me. I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with you." 

Obviously I'm paraphrasing, but I usually don't hear an actual vow or promise in a couple's personalized wedding vows. 

I will always remember my friend Margaret's wedding because it was the first time I had attended a wedding as a guest in a long time, but also because Margaret's vows were actual promises and beautifully written. 

While she was speaking to her husband, Margaret continually used the phrases "I vow" and "I promise". THAT is what the vows you write should include.

To me, it's unnecessary to launch into the history of your relationship -- most people in attendance should already know those details. Focus on the promises and commitments that will guide your marriage and you will create beautiful vows that are both meaningful and memorable. 

4 Reasons Why You Should Hire a Videographer for Your Wedding

Oftentimes clients have a debate about whether or not to hire a videographer. Many don’t see the point in hiring someone in addition to a photographer to catch more images of the day.  And many times they’d love to use the money they might spend on a videographer for another component of their wedding.  

Well, just like hiring a photographer is a “must” for your wedding, I believe hiring a videographer is a “must” as well.  And I always strongly encourage my clients to do so. 

Here’s why:

1 – While a photograph can tell a thousand words, a moving image can tell the whole story.  

A videographer will catch the sights and sounds of your wedding.  You will be able to see and hear yourself speaking your wedding vows for the first time.  You'll be able to hear all of the toasts all over again.  

2 – Your video team can be in multiple places at once.  

While this is true of your photography team as well, your video team can capture all sorts of things you missed.  While you're present and enjoying the night with you guests and new husband or wife, there's a lot that you won't experience.  For instance, cocktail hour is a time that a lot of couples miss.  You're busy taking pictures or enjoying some private time with your partner... It's great to have a video that will show you all of those moments you missed.  

3 – It’s incredibly fun to re-live your wedding through your video. 

After it’s all said and done, there will be a lot about the night you won’t remember.  And years from now it will be very enjoyable to look back and see Uncle Jim boogying down on the dance floor to some ridiculous song.  Being able to see moving images of the whole night and reminisce about what a wonderful event it was is a priceless experience.    

4 – As you get older it will be very powerful to have moving images of loved ones. 

This is the #1 reason I think it’s important to have a wedding video.  It feels absolutely wonderful to have a wedding video that can serve as a family heirloom or time capsule of sorts.  Imagine showing your kids how mom and dad got married.  Imagine showing them moving images of their great grandparents...having them hear voices of family members they might not have gotten the chance to meet.  THIS is why I feel it’s important to preserve the most important memories of your life. 

Many people say it's not worth it to pay for a video "you're only going to watch once".  However, even if you only watch your wedding video when you receive it from your videographer, I bet 20 years from now when you share it with your kids or loved ones, you will be happy you spent the money on it.  A wedding is a once-in-a-lifetime event -- you might as well document it as much as possible.