Why "Day-Of" Wedding Planning is a Myth

I often get emails requesting "day-of" wedding planning assistance. I often overhear conversations in which someone states that they'd like to hire someone for the "day-of" their wedding. I often see planners offer "day-of" wedding planning services. 

Well, let me clearly state that this terminology is flat-out wrong. 

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Day-of wedding planning does not exist. I don't know any wedding planners that swoop in for just one day, clocking in at the beginning of your event's set-up and clocking out once all of your gifts are packed in your car or hotel room. It's impossible to do that and do a good job at your wedding. And for Type A people (the type of people planners usually are), this scenario is not only an impossibility, but also a nightmare!

Part of what allows me to do a good job for my clients is getting to know them and their families. Personalities play a huge part of a wedding day and I like to have as much insight as possible in advance of the actual wedding day. It allows me to make split-second decisions and anticipate your needs much more easily. 

It's also impossible to come in for just the day-of and be expected to run the show without encountering a bevy of problems. No matter how many weddings and events you may have planned, having a second or third set of eyes on all of your plans helps tremendously. It also helps enormously to have a professional look over your plans and highlight any trouble spots. I'm used to all of the common problems that arise -- I know how to spot them and solve them easily. 

My event schedules are an average of 4-7 pages long. They are specific and detailed and contain every possible bit of information that might be necessary. Unless you're going to hand me a similar document and double check everything with all of your vendors the week of your wedding, don't hire me for the day and expect me to be able to do a great job. It's just not possible. You're essentially setting someone up for failure.

That's me setting out escort cards for an event back in 2011! 

That's me setting out escort cards for an event back in 2011! 

All of these reasons are why I have never and will never accept day-of wedding planning clients. My minimum engagement is for month-of planning because that month prior to your wedding is necessary for us to get to know each other, for me to review your contracts, create that crazy detailed schedule I mentioned, and touch base with all of your vendors. 

I want your event to be a success as much as you do. So I'd like to take the necessary time to prepare for it. It's as simple as that.

If you're looking for a planner (for month-of or full service planning), please contact us.

The Most Important Thing to Look for in a Wedding Planner

Hiring a wedding planner is serious business. 
He or she is going to guide you throughout your engagement and provide answers, advice, and help along the way. He or she is going to have an impact on your wallet (and/or your parents' wallets) and you're going to have to spend a lot of time with them. 

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When you're hiring a planner there are a variety of things you should take into account. But what's the #1 thing to look for when you're hiring a wedding planner?

Will your wedding planner put your best interests first?

THAT is the question you should be getting an answer to more than anything else. Get to the bottom of that and you will find a good fit.

Will your planner get to know you?

Your wedding planner should get to know you. They should learn all about your likes and dislikes so that they can offer up the right advice and suggestions. Let's say you have a very modern clean-lined aesthetic but your planner has not bothered to figure that out. They have gone on to propose a loose, organic flower arrangements and vintage furniture vignettes as part of your reception decor. Um, yeah, no. That's not going to work. 

Will your planner push their ideas/aesthetic/traditions onto you?

Your wedding planner should behave as YOUR advocate. Red flags should be popping up if you'd like to be married by a judge and your planner is pushing for a religious ceremony. Do you hate flowers but your planner is insisting on them? That's another red flag. 
Your planner should be able to adapt and collaborate with you to find the best solution to all of your needs and wants. They should not be imposing their agenda onto your event.

We're in the service business

Let's be clear... wedding planning is a service business. So anyone who is not putting their customer first is not "in it to win it". You want to find a planner that values you as a customer; someone who is not going to treat you like another entry in their books. 


Weddings and Smartphones

These days most everyone is attached to their smartphones. Most experiences can't be enjoyed without someone whipping out their phone and documenting it for Instagram, Facebook, or Snapchat. 

I will never forget the time I was pushed off the stairs on a charter bus because a guest needed to push his way onto the bus to get a selfie with the groom before the bus drove off. (Mind you, that guest would see him 15 minutes later at the reception venue.)

Clearly, our quest for instant gratification via social media oftentimes overshadows common decency. 

I have had brides search high and low for dresses with pockets because they wanted to keep their phone on them throughout the evening. As the couple of honor at a wedding you often don't have time to eat, but you think you'll have time to Instagram?  

A wedding is a special, wonderful event and it should be enjoyed and experienced by your guests, and especially you. Take a break from the phones for the day and soak in as much of the day as possible. You don't want to miss something because you were too busy checking Instagram. 

You can always check Facebook and Instagram to your heart's content the day after your wedding.